When Joseph came to them the next
morning, he saw that they were dejected.
So he asked Pharaoh’s officials who were in custody with him in his
master’s house, “Why do you look so sad today?”
“We both had dreams,” they answered, “but there is no one to interpret
them.” Then Joseph said to them, “Do not
interpretations belong to God? Tell me
your dreams.”
Gen. 40:6 - 8
Joshua’s bedroom
walls are painted in rich hues of blood orange and olive green. He chose those colors himself and they well
represent his personality – warm, soothing and mature. His dreams are carefully placed in his room –
a large framed black & white picture of Muhammad Ali knocking out Sonny
Liston; an Eagles banner draped across an archway; souvenir baseballs lined neatly
on his dresser top; a picture of Grand-Pop (Maurice’s dad); a mini-library of
books on a tiered book shelf and a large framed black & white photo of the
notorious Rat Pack. Joshua dreams of a successful future in
sports business; he wants to win big in life and his room reflects those
dreams. I think the photo of Grand-Pop
represents family and a strong work ethic – values that Grand-Pop believed in
most.
Malachi, on the other hand, has a bright, blue stars and
moon themed bedroom. He has a banner
with affirmations like: “Dare to be yourself!”
Brown angel figurines inhabit one of the shelves of his bustling book
rack. There are reminders of the
presence of God everywhere – a plaque that says, “God is love”; and another one
that says, “You are heaven sent”; and a framed picture card that says, “Jesus
loves you!” And of course, Malachi’s
room is dotted with medical equipment and supplies that we’ve tried to make
less conspicuous.
In my mind, the contrast in my boys' rooms is striking. We have given Joshua a tangible future to
reach for, but Malachi’s future is less tangible and more rooted in eternity
with God. The topic of dreams of the
future has always been challenging for me where Malachi is concerned; that
topic activates the verb do (doing)
which brings up limitations for Malachi.
It’s hard for me to envision Malachi doing typical things we dream for
our children: college, marriage, career, etc...
But God keeps showing me that Malachi’s journey is not typical and
therefore he will not do typical things.
Moreover, whereas society defines success by what we do, God is more
interested in who we are being. In the early stages of Malachi’s diagnosis,
friends would often share with me the dreams they had of Malachi walking, talking
and being free of the ventilator. I
wondered why I, his mother, never had those dreams and the wonderment of why
deeply pained me.... Today I am wiser
and at a place of peace with regard to my dreams for my children. God is showing up in both Joshua and
Malachi’s life and doing AWESOME things!
Malachi is walking in the favor of God!
In the bible, Malachi is a prophet who brings good news. How befitting for my Malachi! I never dreamt that my child would be a
prophet. I’m so grateful that God's dreams for us are
bigger than I could ever imagine.
QUESTION OF THE DAY: What inspires the dreams you have for your
children? What imprint has God made on
those dreams?
4 comments:
Dena,
This entry blessed me today.Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Dara
Thank you for taking the time to read my blog post! NEVER stop dreaming for your children or for YOURSELF!
Divinely Inspired,
Dena
You amaze me! I have been so scared to dream about my children. Tonite, you have inspired me! My prayer is that God gives me the strength and courage to dream for my beautiful babies! God bless you!
Kathryn Williams
Kathryn!
I know what you mean; I used to be held hostage by fear too! It was hard to think about the future because the daily challenges were/are monumental. But God did not give us a spirit of fear! I think parents of children with special needs are given the gift of perspective; we have to change our perspective about how we not only look at our challenges, but how we live our challenges. When we do that, we give our children permission to live beyond "one day at a time"; we give them and ourselves permission to dream of a future. It won't look like a "typical" child's future - our children aren't typical, they're EXCEPTIONAL and they have a special charge from God. What has your son done that you never dreamed he would do? That's God allowing us to dream new dreams :) I will pray with you for strength & courage to dare to dream!
Be Divinely Inspired,
Dena
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